Do you ever find yourself getting angry or resentful at someone else because of some behavior they’re doing? What you may find hard to believe is that there’s a strong possibility there is only one reason why you’re feeling that way…
That person is a mirror that’s doing nothing more than reflecting one of your own behaviors back upon you!
For years I found myself getting angry with people all the time for various reasons. One of the biggest ones was when I perceived someone to be totally controlling. It was quite easy for me to always point that type of behavior out in others. But I was completely oblivious to the fact that I was doing the very same type of behavior in every area of my life as well. That led me to believe that the age old adage, “It takes one to know one!” is true.
As I continue to work on my spiritual development, I find I’m not so angry and resentful anymore at things people do. I think that’s because I started looking in the mirror a few years ago at myself anytime someone bothered me immensely. It was then I really began seeing how much of my own anger and resentments were always about myself, and the things that were unresolved within me.
It seems as if I’m on the other side of this now because occasionally people come at me with accusations and a lot of their own anger about something they perceive I’m doing. In the past, this would normally turn into a heated argument because I wasn’t willing to look in the mirror at my own behaviors. Thankfully, I handle things like this quite differently these days. Case in point, a former sponsee recently got seriously angry at the simple guidelines I had for the people I sponsor. After spouting off many judgments in raised tones, that person said I was a control freak and hung up the phone while I was trying to work through the situation with them. The good thing is that not once did I raise my voice or yell back at them. I chuckle at situations like that now because I remember that was me not too long ago when I couldn’t see that all of my issues with others were really about myself.
So if you should ever find yourself looking at others and judging their behaviors with any type of anger or resentments, I encourage you to take a moment, breathe, and then have a look in the mirror. There you will see a reflection of the real person that your issue is truly about. Start working on yourself and grow closer to your Higher Power, and maybe then you’ll start seeing the mirror has always been right in front of you.
Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson