I Feel So Empty…

I feel so empty, like a car running on fumes that’s seriously in need of a fill-up, except in my case, I can’t seem to find the fuel, or the pump for that matter, no matter what I do.

In my 12 Step recovery from addiction world, it’s always said that when one feels empty, it’s best to get out of oneself and help another. So, I’ve tried to fill that emptiness by sponsoring others, by volunteering, and by attending more meetings. Yet, most frustratingly, it hasn’t helped much to fill up that feeling of emptiness whatsoever. Through my recovery, I also learned to pray and meditate each day, do daily affirmations, write gratitude lists, listen to positive music, and eat healthy, but none of that seems to have any effect on removing my emptiness either. In addition, I’ve tried to deal with the emptiness by keeping myself busy with healthy hobbies like going to more movies, working on puzzles, watching uplifting television programs, and coloring in my adult coloring book, but none of them have had much success with removing the emptiness, even for brief periods, either.

And as much as I’m not happy to report this, I’ve even resorted to trying to fill the emptiness with things I know wouldn’t be healthy for me in the long run if I kept them up. Things such as the occasional flirting and fishing to see if someone else finds me attractive, glancing at pictures of people on Facebook I find handsome, or trying to hang out with people I think are good looking. Things such as eating 92% dark chocolate for comfort, pigging out on junk food till I feel bloated, or overeating in general. Things such as buying a scratch ticket or visiting a casino here and there. And things such as trying to oversexualize my own relationship. All of which has done nothing to remove my emptiness and if anything, created even more of it.

And last, but most definitely not the least, I have sadly attempted to forget about my emptiness by attempting to control other people, take their inventory, and make it my business to help them see the work they could do on their life. All any of that’s done is just piss people off.

Honestly, I have no idea how to remove this emptiness and believe me when I say I’ve been sitting with it more than not, without trying to temporarily fill it, for about a year and a half now. I have begged God to fill it. Begged and begged and begged. Because ultimately, I don’t believe there’s any person, place, or thing here that can take it away and I’ve exhausted countless energy, money, and resources to figure that out.

It is said that only God can truly ever fill that emptiness and help us feel full of life and zest and joy, but no matter how hard I’ve tried to connect with God, He seems to be on radio silence with me. I’ve waited and waited and waited and waited, asking for guidance and direction, often feeling like I’m being punished for something when I receive no answers as to why I feel so empty.

I have no answers right now as to how to comfort this little boy within me who keeps crying day after day, who feels like he’s been abandoned. I continue to do my best to remain clean and sober and help others in the process. I continue to keep doing my healthy activities as well, with an occasional backslide here and there. But, all in all, I remain still and wait upon God and have never gone through as long of period as this where I haven’t felt God’s presence and instead, have felt this incredibly deep and dark emptiness. An emptiness that I can’t seem to fill or escape from, no matter what I do.

Lord, my tank feels empty and I’m in desperate immediate need of Your fuel. I have nothing left to give but my life itself, which you know is Yours anyway to do with as You wish. Please help me God. Please remove this emptiness and replace it with joy and a lot more of You, as I know only You can do. Because a life that constantly feels empty, where I don’t feel You, is a life I’m truly struggling to see is still worth living. Yet a life filled with You is most certainly one worth living, one where even something as simple as taking a single breath will provide me all the fuel I need to keep on, keeping on, and one where I know  my car will never run empty again…

Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson

Author: Andrew Arthur Dawson

A teacher of meditation, a motivational speaker, a reader of numerology, and a writer by trade, Andrew Arthur Dawson is a spiritual man devoted to serving his Higher Power and bringing a lot more light and love into this world. This blog, www.thetwelfthstep.com is just one of those ways...

6 thoughts on “I Feel So Empty…”

  1. I’m so sorry you’re feeling that way, love… Just know you’re not alone. I’m feeling that emptiness too… Especially since losing my Mom on August 18th 2017. I withdrew from everything and everyone. All I do is sleep all day every day. I actually OD’d twice last week. I’ve been battling severe depression. I went through a manic stage for a little while and oversexualized situations as well… Sending and receiving explicit pics with just about everybody who showed me attention even though I’m in a relationship in which I get plenty of attention. If you ever want to or need to talk, I’m here for you. Email me and I’ll send you my cell number and you can text me or call me anytime. Sending you LOTS of love and hugs.

    1. Dawn, thank you for being honest with where you are at. I’m grateful always to know I’m not alone in what I feel. Sometimes I just don’t understand why good people get such bad lives on this planet. Hopefully one day I’ll have an answer for that… ❤️

  2. I could use some assistance w/ moving boxes & putting together a bookcase. I have a drill, drill bits, screws & extension cord heavy duty. Is this something you could do? I would be willing to pay you for doing this. I live off Central Avenue near Centennial Road.
    Me you and yours have a wonderful day and a fantastic week! Shalom ?

  3. I’m saddened that you feel this way and was worried reading that you might consider harming yourself. But I kept reading and understand that you trust in God. It IS hard to wait on him, but it’s all on His timeline, not ours. Continue to trust him and forgive yourself. You are doing great! You are mindful of positive things to help yourself and keep coming back to God. Keep it up!

    1. Amy, thank you for your comments today. While the darkness tries often to convince me that I should follow in my father’s tragic footsteps, there is a force within me that continues to help me keep going, as hard as it is. My faith is all I got left and I pray it’s enough to get beyond this storm… ❤️

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