How Disconnected From Life Can An Addicted Person Get Anyway?

Want to know just how disconnected a person can get from life when an addiction becomes severely active for them? How about not really knowing about any of the major news events going on in the world?

I say this only because in the past few weeks I went to the theater and saw two different movies whose original events they were based upon took place during the time my sex and love addiction was at its worst. “Sully” and “Deepwater Horizon” are the movies I’m speaking of and while I vaguely remember the headlines about each of them, I must admit I never paid either much attention.

You see that’s the thing, when someone succumbs to a deadly addiction, nothing else going on in the world matters. The only thing that does is knowing when the next fix for that addiction is going to come along. In my case, that included not caring about the plane that safely landed on the Hudson or the oil rig that exploded off the Louisiana coast killing 11 people.

Frankly, this disconnection I had during the time my sex and love addiction was active was far worse than simply missing out on a few major news stories. I also passed up tons of opportunities to spend time with my sister and her family, I skipped out on many chances to hang out with friends and other loved ones, and I even lost out on a few potential relationships that would have been far healthier than anyone I was getting myself sexually involved with during that time.

The simple reality is this. When a person becomes deeply involved in any addiction, life passes on by without them ever realizing or even caring about it. But when a sobering day comes along, usually from either not getting their fix, or from being sick on some level, that’s when it hits them all at once. The shame, the pain, and the disgust about how much they’ve missed out on life. Yet even in the face of this, insanity usually strikes when the person decides they can’t deal with that realization of how much of their life has passed by and how much they feel like a failure, so they run back to their addiction and enter the same state of sickness as if they’ve never left.

I’m so glad this isn’t me anymore. I’m so glad I’m not sitting by my phone or computer these days waiting for phone calls or messages from people who I might be able to “spend time a little with”, if you catch my drift. And I’m so glad I’m not missing out on things happening in our world these days, even though there are times I actually do wish I could tune them out.

Nevertheless, I’m not missing out on life anymore and I’m definitely not disconnected from reality either. And while being disconnected during a once severely active addiction might have helped me avoid some pain I was going through, I’d gladly take the pain I’m dealing with today over being completely oblivious to what’s going on in the world around me. I give thanks to God and the 12 Steps for this. Because if it wasn’t for them, I wouldn’t even be writing this article right now… 🙂

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Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson

“Designated Survivor”, A Riveting New TV Show That Seems All Too Real

For those who know me, I’m not much into politics, but there’s a new television drama most definitely political in nature that has become the number one show I look forward to watching every week. It’s called Designated Survivor and stars Kiefer Sutherland as Tom Kirkman who is suddenly thrust into the role as President when a deadly terrorist act wipes out all the members of Congress during a State of the Union Address at the US Capitol.

Until I watched the first episode of this new television series, I never fully understood what a “Designated Survivor” actually referred to in our government. Simply put, it’s an individual in the presidential line of succession, usually a member of the United States Cabinet, who is arranged to be at a physically distant, secure, and undisclosed location whenever the President and all the country’s top leaders are gathered in a single location, such as a State of the Union address or a presidential inauguration. In the case of ABC’s new hit show, Tom Kirkman is the Secretary of Housing and Urban Development who is chosen to be the designated survivor during a major presidential speech at the capitol.

What has interested me the most about this show so far is the reality that something like this type of event could truly happen in today’s day and age. In a country and a world where terrorist attacks seem to be ever increasing, I often wonder if it’s just a matter of time before something like this ends up taking place in the United States or somewhere else.

After the terrorist attacks on 9/11/01, I can honestly say I didn’t feel safe in my country anymore. Maybe I was living in a bubble prior to that and was never safe to start with, but given the fact that every time I glance at the latest news headlines nowadays, I see there’s been some type of terrible event somewhere in our country, which in turn makes me constantly question whether it’s just a matter of time before another deadly terrorist attack happens on our soil like 9/11 or even like the premise of this new show.

Nevertheless, what I like best about Designated Survivor thus far is how it’s choosing to portray what might happen after an attack of such magnitude occurred in our country, when essentially all of our leaders are wiped out. Personally, I hope something like this never, ever, happens as long as I’m alive, because my honest opinion about what would take place is what the show is already demonstrating, that utter chaos would probably reign supreme for a while both within our borders and most likely with a good portion of the rest of the world as well.

I must say that Sutherland does do a superb job playing the underdog in a position the country didn’t elect him to in this riveting series that seems all too real. Great supporting work is also done by Kal Penn, who plays the president’s speech writer Seth Wright, Natascha McElhone, who plays the president’s wife Alex, and Adan Canto, who plays the president’s Chief of Staff Aaron Shore.

For a dramatic program with such great depth in acting and an incredible premise, believing in the possibility that an event like this could ultimately happen isn’t much of a stretch. And while it’s hard to imagine the state of our country deteriorating even worse that it feels like it has in recent years, the show clearly shows it could. But as with all calamities that have ever taken place in our country throughout history, great leaders and heroes have risen from their ashes and Tom Kirkman seems poised to become just that in ABC’s new series Designated Survivor, of which I greatly look forward to continuing watching in future weeks…

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Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson