“If you love someone with an addiction, you love someone with a physical, emotional, and spiritual handicap, one who can never fully give you what you need until he/she is freed from that bondage and choosing to live a life of recovery.” (Unknown)
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“Falling in love with an addict who’s not living a life of recovery is knowing you’ll always be their second love.” (Unknown)
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“Untreated addicts of any kind hurt their loves ones because their addiction always comes first before everything. And when their addiction becomes their top priority, they will do anything it takes to use the way they want, even if it means lying to you, stealing from you, manipulating you, deceiving you, abusing you, hurting you, and breaking your heart.” (Unknown)
Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson
I agree with all three quotes. I would add that loving an addict, even one in recovery, is a risk that not everyone can take. I had to end my LTR once the extent of my partner’s addiction became clear, even though by that time he had taken steps to seek help. My heart was already fragile, broken further by his infidelity, and I didn’t feel strong enough (and like these quotes say, loved enough) to take the risk that his recovery would hold. I don’t regret my decision because I had to take care of myself, but I don’t know that my partner ever truly understood the risk he was asking me to take to not end things.
Thanks so much for commenting and being honest! So grateful for the heartfelt words and truths of your life!