Being Proactive Vs. Procrastinating

It definitely feels good to breathe a sign of relief when a blizzard ends and those bright blue skies return. What doesn’t feel that good though is looking at all the shoveling that needs to take place afterwards, especially when the winds are whipping at subzero temperatures. But thankfully, I was able to avoid these conditions recently because my parents taught me about being proactive instead of procrastinating in life.

When the snow started the other day, I knew from all the reports that it was going to be one epic of a storm. There was talk of whiteout conditions, frigid temperatures, and huge winds gusts. The city even placed itself in a Level 3 condition which meant that no one would be allowed out on the roads at all during the storm unless it was for an emergency. As the snow began to fall, I started going outside approximately every other hour to clean off what had accumulated. By the time I decided to call it quits for the evening, the storm was already starting to pass and when I awoke the next morning, I was quite happy with my discovery. Only an inch or two of new snow had fallen on the areas I had diligently took care of the night before. Even the end of the driveway wasn’t completely blocking my exit either. Within twenty minutes, the snow removal job was done and I was back inside where it was warm. It was there that I got to see everyone else in the neighborhood try to unbury themselves from the huge piles and drifts of snow that had accumulated on their driveways from the storm.

This wasn’t always the way I used to handle big blizzards. As I child I was often the one given the chore of clearing the snow off the driveway after a snowstorm. One of the worst memories I have from that chore was when a humungous snowplow would come by after I thought I was done with my task. It frequently left the end of my driveway buried in another foot of snow that I still needed to remove. I distinctly remember my parents suggesting during one particular storm, that I go outside and clean it off in stages so that it wouldn’t be so difficult waiting until it ended. And ironically, they were right. I spent only twenty minutes every few hours cleaning the lighter accumulations of snow off the driveway instead of tackling over a foot of snow all at once. When that storm ended and all the shoveling was done and over with, I was a lot less sore and tired than any of the previous times I had waited until the last minute to do it.

I’ve applied this lesson to so many other things in my life these days. I don’t like to procrastinate and wait until the last minute to do anything anymore because it’s just too overwhelming to tackle those things when I’ve done that. One of the roommates I lived with in Massachusetts was notorious for doing this with his laundry. He would go weeks and sometimes even months without doing it to the point where his room just became piles and piles of dirty clothes. Every time he thought about tackling the task of cleaning them, he would get completely overwhelmed and skip the chore altogether making those piles only grow even higher. I’ve seen people procrastinate just like this with other tasks such as cleaning dirty dishes in the sink, cutting the grass in the yard, or vacuuming and dusting the house. In each case, the amount of time and energy needed to take care of those tasks by waiting until some future date and time was always much greater than taking care of it on a regular basis.

I’ve reduced a substantial amount of stress in my life by becoming proactive in how I handle all my tasks now. My partner has a good chuckle every time I come off the long drive to get to his home because I don’t sit and watch television when I arrive. Instead, I’ll tackle any chores that I’m slated to do so that I can relax the entire next day.

Who knows, maybe procrastinating does work for some people? Or maybe it’s just what they’re used to doing? Either way, if you are someone who gets stressed out and overwhelmed easily, I encourage you to take a movement, breathe, and think about how you handle all the tasks in your life. Do you act in advance before they get out of control or do you wait until the last moment before tackling them? In the long run, the only thing procrastination leads to is greater feelings of being overwhelmed, so why not start trying to become a little more proactive now and you might start saving yourself some undue stress?

Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson

Do Cats and Dogs Simply Mirror Our Own Energy?

I’ve been thinking quite a bit lately about the way cats and dogs seem to be treating me these days. The interesting thing I’m noticing is how they all seem to be very affectionate and unconditionally loving with me now. Ironically, these are also the very same two traits I’ve been demonstrating everywhere in my own life on a consistent basis. And it has led me to start pondering the question as to whether cats and dogs simply mirror our own energy?

If people can be brought into our lives to act as mirrors for us to see the areas that we haven’t been facing, then is it that far of a stretch to think that pets could be mirrors for us as well?

Let me use a person-to-person mirroring scenario first. A person comes into your life who is constantly negative and angry all the time. It really gets under your skin and irritates you incessantly that this person acts like this constantly. You find yourself regularly complaining about this person to everyone and are getting frustrated with them more than not. What you haven’t realized is how that person is only acting as a mirror for you to see your own chronic negativity and anger issues.

Now let me use a person to pet scenario. You have a friend who has a dog that constantly is barking or growling every time you come around. It really grates your nerves right down to your wits end. A part of you starts dreading the idea of being around this dog when you visit your friend so you start asking them to put their dog away while you’re there. But all you hear from the other room where that dog is closed away is the very same thing of barking or growling. You feel anger boiling up inside and you ask your friend if their dog ever stops barking or growling. They respond to you that their dog is not normally that way. Is it possible that their dog is only mirroring your own anger inside you?

A few years ago, too many dogs used to bark at me all the time when I came around them. And if they weren’t barking at me, they were putting their tails between their legs, especially when I tried to pet them. As for any cats that I came around, most would only hiss, scratch or bite me if I made any attempts to pet or hold them. During those periods of my life, I held onto quite a bit of anger inside with just about everything in life. I was constantly negative and lived in a tremendous amount of toxicity and darkness. When I met my current partner, I was just in the beginning stages of removing all of that energy. On my first trip to his home, I met his cat Driggs who hissed at my every attempt to get closer to her. I was swiped at more times than I can count and I started nicknaming her Cujo Kitty because of it. As time moved forward though, I continued to remove all of that toxicity and darkness from within me. As a result, many of my closest friends starting noticing I was becoming a lot more unconditionally loving in every area of my life. By that point, I had given up all my attempts on subsequent trips to grow closer to Driggs. On one of them though, she suddenly jumped up on me and started purring. Since then, I’ve continued on my path to grow closer to God and she seems to follow me everywhere now. In fact, it’s hard to find a moment these days where she’s not meowing at me to pick her up and place her on my lap. And if she’s not in my lap purring, she’s usually laying next to me doing it.

The same thing has been true of my sister’s cats. They used to run from me during all my addiction-crazed days. If I picked them up and put them in my lap, they would jump off me as quick as they could once I let go of them. On my last few trips to her house, I couldn’t find a moment where they weren’t rubbing up on me or wanting to be close to me like Driggs does.

I’ve noticed this pattern also with many other pets I’ve been around lately and each of them seem to be showing me an incredible amount of unconditional love. But it was only a few years ago when I was completely selfish and self-centered that I couldn’t get a single bit of affection from any animal I came around. Barking and hissing were the common denominators from them instead during those days.

All of this has me pondering whether cats and dogs simply mirror the energy of those they come around.

So do cats hiss or swipe at strangers because of how their owner’s energy is? Or maybe it’s only because of that stranger’s energy?

Do dogs bark and growl at strangers because of how their owner’s energy is? Or maybe it’s only because of that stranger’s energy?

Whatever the answers to those questions are, I just find myself noticing how different today so many cats and dogs are with me when I come around, as compared to how they all used to be with me. I’m grateful to God for this because I enjoy receiving their unconditional love when too many in this world don’t even know how to express it. It’s also confirmation of the spiritual growth I’ve made in my own life.

So the next time you find yourself having a cat or dog act unfriendly with you, I encourage you to take a moment, breathe, and realize that maybe they are just acting as a mirror for you to take a look at your own energy. Ask God to help cleanse and purify all your energy into love and light and you might just begin to notice how all those cats and dogs start gravitating towards you in a more loving way instead…

Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson

A Prayer For Healing

There are many people in this world who suffer great lengths of time from diseases, maladies, illnesses, and the like. I am actually one of them and there doesn’t seem to be a single day that passes anymore without me praying for my own healing. I thought it might be good to share one of my prayers for healing so that it could help others in their own journeys to heal from whatever it is they are suffering from…

“Dear God, I love you but I’m scared because of my health issues. I’m really frustrated with my healing process and my patience is being tested in all of what I’m going through. But I trust that You are continuing to guide that process and still have a wonderful plan in store for me. Please forgive me for all the times where I’ve been angry about my health issues, where I’ve totally felt like just giving up, and where I’ve even asked you to end my life. I know those thoughts and feelings happen when I’m most in pain. Please know that none of that comes from my soul’s truest desires. I believe all my soul truly wants God is to heal and be in a much better state of health to serve you even more faithfully. God, I only ask for Your continued guidance and strength to get there as I know that will be enough to help me endure through the rest of this healing process. I thank you for hearing my prayer and for when that day arrives where I’m completely healed from all of this. Amen.”

Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson