Would You Want To Know Who “The One” Is?

In the dating realm, one often tends to look for their “soul mate”, a match believed to be made in Heaven. Many have hard sought for that perfect partner time and time again, hoping to meet the one who truly feels right on every level, mind, body, and soul. What if such a thing actually existed? What if science had a way to find that for every individual in this world? This is the concept of a new television series I just got done watching its first season of the other day on Netflix called “The One”.

If such a science existed, if there truly was a genetic component in all of us that blended perfectly with another on the planet, would you want to know who the other person was that was meant for you? If there ultimately was indeed a perfect match for all of us, would you seek it out through a simple DNA test?

Watching “The One” really got me thinking. How often in my life have I sought out the perfect partner, only to discover time and time again the imperfections in every one of them, especially with myself. But what if I could take a test just like one that “Ancestry.com” offers to discover their ancestral roots, where a tiny tuft of my hair could lead to finding my perfect match somewhere in the world that blended perfectly with me? Would I take such a test? I’d have to say knowing my personality, probably.

In the television series, I love how this concept gets explored, how it shows the many difficult choices and complex paths that each individual takes when having the potential of “The One” being out there for them. Like, what if “The One” for you was someone already in a relationship with another person? Or, what if “The One” for you had passed away? Or, what if “The One” was actually someone of the same sex as you, where you didn’t identify as gay or lesbian, or vice versa, you did identify as that, but your match was of the opposite sex? Or even better, what if you were so insecure of a person that you might even take some of your partner’s hair unknowing to them, just to discover who their perfect match was? What would you do if it wasn’t you? Each of these questions and more get explored in this series, all leaving me to ponder them quite a bit myself, as to how I’d handle every one of them, if such a science existed in this world for relationships.

While I love my partner Chris a lot, we most definitely have our problems and our vast differences in our relationship. I wish we blended together perfectly, where we never argued and felt more of a unison in our connection than not. But we don’t, and honestly, I’ve never felt that with any of my former partners either. In the past, I’d jump from one partner to the next hoping to find that, but never did, which is why I’ve opted to remain with Chris, as I don’t think there is a perfect partner out there. Yet, if such a science existed that could reveal a perfect match made in Heaven so to speak, I think I’d really want to know who it was given all the dating woes I’ve faced in life.

Some have said to me over the years that they’re with that match made in Heaven already. Many of them have been in their relationships for decades and couldn’t imagine being with anyone else. It’s hard to fathom what would happen if such a DNA test existed that could prove whether they truly were always meant to be together. Or better yet, could prove there was an even closer match?

While I’m quite sure that many decades-long relationships in this world would never take such a test if it existed and would accept they’re already with the one they were always meant to be with, I’m just as sure, like “The One” series explores, that hundreds of millions and more would want to know.

When I approached my partner Chris about this, he said he wouldn’t want to know who “The One” was for him. But ironically, I think I’d want to know who it was for him, because of a past partner he constantly speaks so fondly of, a relationship that ended only out of fear. What if that person was meant to be his perfect match? In light of all these challenges that might arise if such a science became real in our world, it’s probably a good thing there isn’t such a DNA test yet, because it would probably only lead to mass heartache and pain on our planet, something we already have enough of.

In the end, I think I like best what my good friend Rob answered when I asked him about whether he’d want to know who “The One” was for him. He said part of the excitement of dating is just leaving things to fate and chance and all the growing and learning that comes through it all.

Regardless, “The One” is a great series if you like science fiction that’s grounded in science possibilities. And while its left me thinking I’d really love to know who “The One” was for me, I trust “The One” I’m with now is who God wants me to be with, even through all our ups and downs.

Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson

“Land”, A Film That Beautifully Portrays The Extremes Some Go In Life To Heal Their Brokenness Within…

It’s actually been a good while since I saw any movie that truly moved me enough to write an article about it in my blog. That all changed when I caught a screening of “Land” starring Robin Wright in the theater recently.

Wright plays a woman named Edee, who from her very first moments on screen shows how extremely unstable she’s become, both mentally and emotionally. Something tragic has obviously happened in her life that has caused her to find no reason left to live. Her sister Emma (Kim Dickens) is distraught over this and pleads for Edee not to take her life. While the viewer has no idea exactly what has caused Edee to feel like this, it’s apparent it’s something horrific. As a last-ditch effort to cope with whatever she’s dealing with, Edee decides to completely go off the grid in a remote part of the Wyoming wilderness and start up a life of complete solitude. Little does she know she’s bit off far more than she can chew when she arrives at the very old mountainside rustic cabin she’ll now call her home. In the middle of nowhere, without any attachment left to the living world, including no phone or car, electricity or otherwise, Edee begins a spiritual journey within, one that will face her two biggest fears, that being the pain within herself and the fear of connecting with another human being again, one that will only come by way when another lonesome soul named Miguel (Demian Bichir) enters her life by happenstance.

“Land” is exactly the movie I needed to see lately. Watching a seriously wounded woman overcoming the greatest of odds and finding herself along the way is the hopeful story my soul has been calling for. Most of the films I’ve watched as of late are depressing. They’ve all dealt with fighting, bickering, cheating, stealing, and well pretty much every type of low vibrational behavior that’s filling our world quite a bit now, especially as everyone continues to cope with this ongoing pandemic. What my soul needed the most was a spark to uplift it and “Land” most definitely didn’t disappoint in that.

What I think I related to the most in “Land” was the number of times I saw myself feeling just like Edee, having no purpose to keep going, that life doesn’t matter anymore. That’s a very scary place to be in, where every day you awake and feel that life is pointless. I know the pain of that oh, so, very well. Watching Edee in “Land” walk through that pain is something I continue to face myself. There are countless days where I don’t know if I can take this pain anymore, but like Edee, there’s an inner resilience somewhere deep within me that keeps me going. While I’m not sure if I’d ever go to the extreme of living in a remote mountainside wilderness-based existence to find myself, I am spending more time alone in stillness, as I too hope to find greater inner peace and serenity, just like Edee desperately sought in the movie as well.

By far, “Land” is at least a four out of five-star film with Robin Wright giving an Oscar-worthy performance that was more than believable and well worth its hour and 29-minute running time. While the film takes one through the most heart-wrenching of moments via Edee’s eyes, it’s one I definitely felt ended on a positive note and left me with exactly what I needed, which was the courage to keep going.

Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson

Why Professional Athletes Rarely Retire On Top…Is It The Love Of The Game Or Possibly An Addiction?

I was once one of Michael Jordan’s biggest fans when he played for NBA’s Chicago Bulls and won them six championships. After winning his sixth, Jordan went into retirement for a second time, the first having been motivated mostly due to the stress from his father’s tragic killing. When Jordan came out of retirement for a 3rdtime and played for the Washington Wizards for two seasons, he told the press it was out of his love of the game that brought him back, but I silently wondered if his decision to return yet again, especially at almost 40 years old, was one more based out of an addiction.

I’ve often pondered if many professional athletes like Jordan push themselves well beyond their prime playing days because of the dopamine high that comes from the love of winning and being on top. Honestly, that drive is no different than what an alcoholic, drug addict, gambling addict, sex addict, or any type of addict goes through. Because once that high gets achieved, it’s game on for them to keep getting that high, at any cost. Is that really any different with a professional athlete who pursues the glory and high of winning and constantly fights the aging process along the way as to when to retire? And if it indeed was an addiction-based drive that led Jordan to come back that third time, at least it didn’t leave him after those two final seasons with any life-altering injuries. Sadly, it did leave him though with two losing seasons, and only an occasional reminder of the razzle and dazzle he once was.

Now, I see the same thing happening with Tom Brady. Ironically, I’ve often referred to him as the Michael Jordan of the NFL. The guy has won seven titles, six with the New England Patriots, and one with the Tampa Bay Buccaneers. While he’s never gone into any official retirement, he’s 43 years old, playing in an extremely physical and often dangerous sport. Now, he’s planning on coming back yet again at the ripe “old” age of 44 to play another season. What more does he have to prove when he’s already surpassed just about every record and will forever be considered one of the best quarterbacks in NFL history. I’d say there is nothing to prove other than him doing exactly what Jordan did, saying the love of the game keeps him coming back. But is that “love of the game” really just code for the high that comes from playing the game?

I’ve played a number of sports before and there indeed is a nice high that comes from winning, especially when you come out on top at the end of a season. What risk though is Brady putting himself in coming back yet again? The guy has three kids and a beautiful wife who I’m sure love spending time with him. Beyond the limited time he probably has with them when he’s in season, he puts himself at risk for permanent life-changing injuries each time he steps on that field, especially each year he gets older. I think Brady would seriously regret playing another season after seven titles if he permanently gets injured and God forbid, one that paralyzes him or gives him that concussive disease (CTE) that many NFL players have gotten.

I don’t see this as any different than any other addiction. Addicts in general get a high from something and chase after it over and over and over again, putting themselves at risk more and more each time they engage in it. And the older they get, the more at risk they are continuing to do it. But oh, that high drives their mind and egos so great, just like I’m sure six championship titles for Jordan did and seven for Brady. I’m convinced it’s why Jordan came back, because retirement didn’t provide that high, which is most likely why Brady keeps playing as well.

In my book, this is why I wish Tom Brady would retire now, while his body is still relatively healthy enough, rather than potentially having a complete losing season next year or even far worse, sustaining some life-altering injury. But that’s the price addicts risk chasing some high. Personally, I wish I had “retired” from all my former addictions when I was still “on top of them”. But I didn’t, because an addict has no control over their addiction. And maybe indeed in the end, that’s why I often wonder if athletes like Michael Jordan, Tom Brady and many others are addicts as well, constantly seeking the high of winning and being number one, all while risking so much to lose each time they come back for one more season…

Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson