It’s relatively easy to tell a lie, especially when we think we’ll get away with it. There’s also those situations where we think it’s better to tell a lie, then to tell the truth, because of the pain it might cause someone else. But as they say in courtrooms all across America each and every day, I believe it’s always important to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
The sole reason why a person ever tells any kind of lie is because of some type of fear they have inside. Most of the time, telling lies is a pattern that begins back in childhood. When I was a kid, there were countless examples of me breaking something valuable, skipping some type of chore, or getting in trouble at school and lying about each of them. The only reason why I lied about them was due to the fear I had inside about what would happen if I told the truth. But the funny thing about those lies though was that the truth behind them usually seemed to surface at some later point. And whenever that happened, the damage created by my lies were so much worse then what it would have been if I had just told the truth from the onset.
Not all of our childhood lies are discovered though as some are definitely gotten away with. I believe that this is why so many people in this world fail to tell the truth on a consistent basis. Because we got away with some of our lies as a child, our egos start convincing us there was an advantage to telling lies versus the truth. As I grew into my addiction based life, my lies became worse and more numerous. Eventually, I began to believe my own lies and most of my life turned totally dishonest. Unfortunately, when one gets to this point of telling that many lies throughout their life, they can’t keep them all straight and people start to see just how much of a liar they really are. Sadly, this is where my life took me and I became a person that no one could trust.
I allowed my ego to constantly convince me that many of the lies I was telling were for the better because of the pain they might either cause me or someone else if I told the truth. A good case in point was with one person I really struggled being around for several years. I remained their friend only because of the things they were offering me in that friendship but not because I really liked them. When that person confronted me time and time again and asked if I truly loved them and considered them a close friend, I’d lie each time and say I did only because of the fear of becoming alone and losing those things they were providing me. Ironically, that truth was revealed by my behaviors after years went by and the pain I caused this person was much greater then it ever should have been if I had ended the friendship permanently years earlier. And also important to note is the fact that the pain I felt inside was just as unbearable over my lies to this person.
To put it simply…
People lie to others for the fear of losing someone.
People even lie to others for the fear of having someone.
People lie to others for the fear of not feeling important enough.
People even lie to others for the fear of feeling too important.
People lie to others for the fear of being punished.
People even lie to others for the fear of not being punished.
People lie to others for the fear of hurting themselves.
People even lie to others for the fear of hurting another.
People lie to others for the fear of not getting what they want.
People even lie to others for the fear of getting what they want.
Are you getting my point? People lie to others for an infinite number of reasons but it’s always based upon some type of fear they have inside. In the long run though, the best thing for them to do is tell the truth from the beginning. A lie is like poison that eats away at the soul. It drives us away from God, from love, and from the light. It brings darkness upon our hearts which only pushes us to tell even more lies. Eventually we become a complete liar and we can’t keep any of our lies straight. And that’s when the real truths start coming to the surface. Often, it’s too late at that point where the damage from our lies is too much to repair. So isn’t it better to tell the truth right from the start and not ever get to this point? I am not a liar anymore specifically for these reasons and I put the truth out there about myself for everyone to see all the time now. I will admit that sometimes telling the truth does hurt not only someone else, but also myself, but I find in doing so that the pain is much less up front then waiting and worrying for my lie to rear its ugly head later.
If you are someone who has the tendency to tell any type of lie here or there, then I encourage you to take a moment, breathe, and realize you are telling one lie too much. You are not only hurting others with even your slightest of lies, you are also hurting yourself too and putting your health at risk. If you want to start being a person filled with a lot more love and light, then start by telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth and know in doing so that you’re making your life and this world a whole light brighter…
Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson
