Month: July 2018

A Recovering Sex And Love Addict’s Trip Down Memory Lane…

Being back in the Boston area this week, after four years of absence since moving to Toledo, has definitely been interesting. While I have plenty of good memories here, mostly from the 12-step recovery realm, I, unfortunately, also have plenty of bad memories too, all of which stem from the sex and love addict behaviors I used to regularly engage in here.

During five of the seven years I lived in this area, I addictively chased after three specific individuals, each who were married or in a relationship already with someone else. I lost sight of myself in the process and along the way, I also lost sight of all of the good morals I learned in my recovery work, including honesty and integrity, each of which totally went out the window.

Driving around here these past few days has definitely reminded me of this. Constantly seeing restaurants, parks, golf courses, movie theaters, and various other places of interests where I hung out with these individuals and was only focused on one thing, has caused me to reflect on just how much precious time I lost from this sick addiction.

This area has a lot of God-made nature beauty within it and many magnificent things to see and partake in as well, and yet, I spent most of my time here focused, obsessed really, on the people I was addicted to, rather than on any of that splendor.

And another sad truth is I don’t remember much of the social activities I did here either, as much as I remember the far too many attempts I made to sleep with these three individuals. This is without a doubt the very reason why it’s taken me four years to return here, as I tend to be reminded here more of these bad memories than the good.

In all honestly, I lost myself for most of the time I lived in this Boston area. And to be more accurate, I lost myself in these three specific individuals. I also lost sight of God because of it and I lost sight of me and the beautiful soul God gave me too. Instead, most of my sight was geared towards engaging in the sex and love addiction and that part of me remained mostly in control, leading me to regularly doing so many things that I used to be very ashamed to admit.

I’m so thankful I’m six years removed from any of those behaviors today and I’m so thankful I’m sober from this addiction now too. Because at least during this week-long trip, I’m now able to create new memories, ones that aren’t deeply enmeshed anymore in an addiction that used to taint my mind, body, and soul on a regular basis, and ones that will forever be remembered on a much more positive level…

Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson

Silly Joke Friday

Silly Joke #1

Three handsome male dogs are walking down the street when they see a beautiful, enticing, female poodle.

The three male dogs fall all over themselves in an effort to be the one to reach her first, but end up arriving in front of her at the same time. They’re speechless before her beauty, slobbering on themselves and hoping for just a glance from her in return.

Aware of her charms and her obvious effect on the three suitors, she decides to be kind and tells them, “The first one who can use the words “liver” and “cheese” together in an imaginative, intelligent sentence can go out with me.”

The sturdy, muscular black Lab speaks up quickly and says “I love liver and cheese.”

“Oh, how childish,” said the Poodle. “That shows no imagination or intelligence whatsoever.” She turned to the tall, shiny Golden Retriever and said “How well can you do?”

“Um. I HATE liver and cheese,” blurts the Golden Retriever.

“My, my,” said the Poodle. “I guess it’s hopeless. That’s just as dumb as the Lab’s sentence.” She then turns to the last of the three dogs and says, “How about you, little guy?”

The last of the three, tiny in stature but big in finesse, is the Chihuahua. He gives her a smile, a sly wink, turns to the Golden Retriever and the Lab and says: “Liver alone. Cheese mine.”

Silly Joke #2

A guy was invited to an old friends’ home for dinner. His buddy preceded every request to his wife by endearing terms, calling her Honey, My Love, Darling, Sweetheart, Pumpkin, etc.  The guy was impressed since he knew the couple had been married almost 70 years, and while the wife was off in the kitchen he said to his buddy, “I think it’s wonderful that after all the years you’ve been married, you still call your wife those pet names.” His buddy hung his head. “To tell you the truth, I forgot her name about ten years ago.”

Silly Joke #3

The 6th grade science teacher, Mrs. Parks, asked her class, “Which human body part increases to ten times its size when stimulated?”

No one answered until little Mary stood up and said, “You should not be asking sixth-graders a question like that! I’m going to tell my parents, and they will go and tell the principal, who will then fire you!”

Mrs. Parks ignored her and asked the question again, “Which body part increases to 10 times its size when stimulated?”

Little Mary’s mouth fell open. Then she said to those around her, “Boy, is she going to get in big trouble!”

The teacher continued to ignore her and said to the class, “Anybody?”

Finally, Billy stood up, looked around nervously, and said, “The body part that increases 10 times its size when stimulated is the pupil of the eye.”

Mrs. Parks said, “Very good, Billy,” then turned to Mary and
continued. “As for you, young lady, I have three things to say: One, you have a dirty mind. Two, you didn’t read your homework. And three, one day you are going to be very, very disappointed.”

Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson