“…Don’t Be Mean When I Say It!” is one of the better spiritual catch phrases I’ve learned over the years. Unfortunately, so many frequently overlook the last part of this phrase becoming quite cruel in the process when trying to convey their words to another. Sadly, I was regularly guilty of this myself for a very long time.
When I used to be under the influence of alcohol, drugs, or any mind-altering substance, it actually was quite common for me to say some pretty nasty things towards others. I definitely always said the words I meant to say and without a doubt, meant what I said as well at those particular moments in time, but how I conveyed them was usually with a tremendous amount of anger and vulgarity. All that resulted in was a lot of the same behavior coming back at me from those I had sent those harsh words towards. None of this behavior changed much either during all the years I got caught up in other addictions.
It wasn’t until I became free of my addiction-prone life that I was able to start letting go of the majority of my past resentments and burdens in life. As I cleared more and more of that wreckage away from within, the more my heart became open. And the more my heart became open, the more I began believing that each and every person in this world contained a part of my Higher Power. And the more I began believing that each and every person in this world contained a part of my Higher Power, the more I began feeling the pain and suffering of everyone else. And ultimately, the more I began feeling the pain and suffering of everyone else, the less I wanted to inflict any more of it upon any of them.
I’m a lot more guarded today with all my words I express whether they’re oral or written, as there are too many I once said to others I wish I could take back. But the reality is that I can’t, thus the only thing I can do now is what I’ve been doing, and that’s to proceed forward in life by doing the best I can to not be mean in any of the ways I choose to communicate. I believe the key to making sure this happens is to keep my Higher Power in charge of my life and to stay in my heart and out of my ego. I find myself pausing quite a bit now to ensure this happens, as I don’t want to hurt anyone more than they already might be hurting inside.
So while I do believe it’s extremely important to always say what I mean and mean what I say, I know now that being mean when I say it is only going to result in causing more pain and suffering to another extension of my Higher Power. The last thing I would want nowadays is that, thus I will continue doing my absolute best to not be mean in whatever I say, as I know it will help not only me, but all others as well, on our spiritual journeys towards greater enlightenment…
Peace, love, light, and joy,
Andrew Arthur Dawson