Daily Reflection

“The most simple things can bring the most happiness.” (Izabella Scorupco)

Why do so many of us often look so hard to find happiness in life when there are always the simplest of things around us that can bring us that very thing? For years I myself thought happiness could only come through having a lot of money and what it could afford me, until limitations with my health and finances led to me to seeing otherwise. Since then I’ve grown to appreciate a lot simpler things in life such as a chirping cricket visiting me while I sit outside, the tranquil sounds of a rain shower falling upon my house, the chorus of many birds talking in trees above me, the lapping of waves I hear on Lake Erie’s edge, the spinning of complicated webs by spiders around my garden, the vibrant colors of leaves as they begin to change in the fall, the wet dewdrops on the tips of my grass hanging out in the morning, the serene glow of the sun as it sets in the evening, or the translucence of a full moon in the sky sitting amongst all of those twinkling stars. I’ve grown to truly appreciate and find happiness in each of these simple things and so many more, and thankfully, it only took me being slowed down to finally wake up and realize that.

I pray I am fully open to experience all the happiness I’m meant to in life through even the simplest of things.

Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson

 

Analytical Andrew And Acceptance

Being an overly analytical type of guy my entire life has been both a blessing and a curse. The blessings have mainly come through any projects I ever undertook because with my great attention to detail, I usually have been able to complete most of them with ease and excellence. But there are plenty of times in my life as well where being so analytical has been more of a curse and this is something I’m facing in several areas of my life as of late.

With friendships, I regularly try to analyze to the Nth degree why I have very few of them. What this frequently translates into is me dissecting every aspect of my personality thinking there’s something wrong with me.

With my health, I regularly try to analyze to the Nth degree why I haven’t gotten better yet. What this frequently translates into is me questioning every element of my life that might still be causing or keeping me in any pain.

With my recovery, I regularly try to analyze to the Nth degree why sponsees disappear, why not everyone likes when I share at meetings, and why the AA promises don’t seem to be coming true for me lately. What this frequently translates into is me beating myself up and trying to push myself ever harder in my 12 Step program.

With my spirituality, I regularly try to analyze to the Nth degree why I haven’t been able to develop more connection to the spiritual realm, to my spiritual gifts, or to even why I’m here. What this consistently translates into is me adding more and more things to my daily spiritual routines, hoping any one of them might help improve those connections.

The curse in all of these overly analytical behaviors is that I become exhausted and lack acceptance. But the fact is, I know I’m doing my absolute best in every area of my life to grow. With that being said, my sponsors and teachers have continued to remind me that the rest is in my Higher Power’s control and not mine.

What they are saying is that my lack of friendships, my less than desired current state of health, my dilemmas in my 12 Step recovery program, and my longing for a stronger connection to the spiritual realm are just how they’re supposed to be right now and the only thing I can do is accept that. But trying to analyze why they are in the state is only going to keep on causing me greater suffering, misery, and pain.

So the work I really have cut out for me is to stop questioning, analyzing, and trying to figure out the entire why’s of my life. I don’t think I’m ever going to find all the answers I seek and in all honesty, for those times that I have, it’s only led to even further analytical behavior. The only solution I see for my overly analytical brain is the one I’m constantly led back to by so many. It’s to practice what page 417 in the 4th edition of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says. And for those who might not know what this is, here’s an excerpt.

“And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation–some fact of my life—unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake…”

Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson

How Do We End Mass Shootings?

Rosenburg. Charleston, Isla Vista,. Ft. Hood, Washington, D.C. Santa Monica, Newton, Brookfield, Minneapolis, Oak Creek, Aurora, each city is where a mass shooting occurred over the past three years. In total, they have accounted for close to 100 innocent deaths. Analysts continue to argue there’s not an increasing trend to this mass violence, yet it seems like every time I look at the front page of USA Today, an outbreak of one has taken place again.

Just last week at North Arizona University in fact, another person was dead and three injured because of one of these shooting rampages.

And when each of these rampages take place, it only leads people to argue for greater gun control, while the opposing forces argue back for the continued right to bear arms and protect themselves. But nothing ever seems to get accomplished in that debate.

So what’s the solution then?

Sadly, I’m not sure if I have that answer. But what I do know is that America is glorifying violence more and more every single day. It’s in our movies. It’s in our television shows. It’s in our video games. It’s in our sports. It’s in our music. It’s everywhere. And I don’t see it going away anytime soon because people keep on gravitating towards it. In other words, the more violent something appears, the more it seems to bring in greater dollars.

And even worse, our newspapers and media continue to glorify it as well, pasting pictures of each mass killer all over the news and profiling their entire lives for days and weeks beyond every single tragedy. I often wonder if this only propels someone who’s a budding mass murder to actually go forward with their crime, especially when they feel they are a nobody and want to become a somebody.

Thus I feel the only solution I can safely come up with is to start eliminating the glorification of violence in everything. I know that’s a big undertaking, but to get there, it means each of us having to stop supporting it as well.

I’ve backed away tremendously these days from going to movies that are mega-violent because I never feel good after watching them. Occasionally, when I’ve gone against that principle and seen an Academy Award potential that had too much violence in it, I’ve left feeling charged up and full of anger.

Maybe that’s what happens to those that eventually become mass murderers? Maybe they have allowed themselves to plug into the violence in our culture over and over again, so much so that they have become de-sensitized to it and instead become charged up, angry people all the time, which is nothing more than just a ticking time bomb.

To be perfectly honest, I have no idea why anyone could ever pick up a bunch of guns and then kill a ton of innocent people. But arguing for gun control or the right to bear arms is just sticking us in a perpetual pattern of debate and really doing nothing about the problem. Maybe if we stop supporting the growth of violence in our country instead, maybe if we stop paying to see more of it, maybe if we stop glorifying it in the news, then things might begin to change.

The bottom line is that it comes down to each and every one of us. We each need to be the ones to make this change, not the government. This is why I don’t gravitate towards violent-anything these days and why I choose to support expressions of unconditional peace and love to all instead. I only hope that one day we all might be doing this, because until then, I’m afraid we’re only going to keep on having to endure many more innocent deaths of God’s children in these mass shootings, which is truly a tragedy indeed…

Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson