Is Your Life Unmanageable?

Many people are often completely unaware they even have an addiction, let alone the destruction that’s taking place in their life because of it. Thankfully, the first step, in all 12-Step Recovery programs, helps a person deal with these things. The first part of Step One is admitting the powerlessness a person has over their addiction. The second part, which can often be much harder to face, is admitting that one’s life has also become unmanageable from doing that addiction.

So what is meant by unmanageability?

Here are just some of the warning signs for when an addiction could be causing unmanageability in one’s life:

1. Calling in sick to work regularly.

2. Leaving work early or arriving late regularly.

3. Racking up debt and failing to keep bills current.

4. Skipping household cleaning to the point where the home becomes filthy.

5. The refrigerator or home becoming filled with spoiling or already rotten food.

6. Working long hour’s daily.

7. Shopping and spending money on things not needed.

8. Overly cleaning.

9. Greatly reducing one’s hours of sleep.

10. Over-scheduling.

11. Failing to get to scheduled appointments.

12. Procrastination on normal life duties.

13. Speeding, stealing, and breaking the law in general.

14. Having to seek caffeine or other substances to keep you going for the day.

15. Having to seek pills or other substances to take the edge off for the day.

16. Loss of friendships.

17. Loss of partner, wife, or intimate relationship.

18. Being fired from a job.

19. Losing one’s own business.

20. Spending countless hours on the Internet.

21. Failing to shower and stay clean.

22. Losing one’s home.

23. Having one’s possessions repossessed.

24. Avoiding phone calls.

25. Having to lie regularly.

Over the years I have learned from so many people, the amount of unmanageability that came from their active addictions. In my case, while I was able to readily admit I was powerless over all of my addictions, I never wanted to face the unmanageability they were creating in my life. So I stayed sick and suffered the consequences.

I lost count of the number of family get-togethers I avoided to act out in my addictions. I watched my own business fail due to my addictions. I saw several long-term relationships fall apart due to my addictions. I lost many friends due to my addictions. And yet, I continued to do them until I was willing to not only admit I was powerless of those addictions, but that my life truly had become unmanageable because of them.

Today, I’m not active in any addiction and I have to thank to my Higher Power for that. And because of this, my life is not unmanageable anymore.

If your life is becoming or has already become unmanageable, you may want to look at what addiction(s) could be controlling your life. Until you admit you’re powerless over them and that your life has become unmanageable from doing them, the destruction they are creating is only going to get worse. Seek 12 Step Recovery and I promise you that your life will start getting better…

Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson

Another Invaluable Lesson In Patience

I write a lot about the topic of patience because I believe it’s one of the greatest lessons I’m meant to learn in life. Truthfully, I believe it’s also a lesson that many others struggle to learn as well. Unfortunately, the path to achieving this is never easy. Often, it’s filled with many stumbling blocks and challenges that test the very thing we’re trying to learn. Recently, I had one of these experiences and it definitely taught me another invaluable lesson in patience.

That lesson started early one morning as I left the house to attend a 12-Step recovery meeting. As I pulled out of the driveway and began heading down the street, I heard a “thump, thump, thump” over and over again on the right side of my car. At first I thought it might be the condition of the roads just causing the noise. But as it got louder, I decided it might be best to stop and have a closer look. After pulling to the side of the road, I walked around my vehicle and inspected each of my tires. That’s when I saw on the front passenger tire, a long screw sticking in it. I quickly pulled it out and breathed a sign of relief when I didn’t hear any hissing noise. I then headed on to my recovery meeting and soon forgot about the mishap. After the meeting was over though, I returned to my car only to notice my low tire pressure indicator had lit up. That immediately led me to the closest car repair shop around the corner to get it fixed. A few minutes later the clerk there told me that it would take around five hours of time because of how busy they were. Not wanting to wait that long, I promptly left and went to another repair shop a few miles from there.

They had a better prognosis and said they could have it fixed within no more than two and half hours of time. So I left it with them and jetted off to a coffee shop to do some step work with a sponsee. And sure enough, after almost that exact amount of time had passed, my car was ready to go. As I headed home from the repair shop, I noticed I needed fuel, so I decided to pull into a nearby gas station before I got onto the highway. Suddenly a loud “BOOM!” came from the same side of my car where the tire had just been repaired. I rapidly jumped out of my car and heard a loud hissing noise now escaping from the rear passenger tire.

I watched for a moment in sheer frustration as that tire began rapidly deflating. Hopping swiftly back into my car, I raced back to the store that had just finished their repair not more than ten minutes before. Two and half more hours and $140 later, I was back in my car and driving away from that repair shop for the second time that day. That’s when I noticed it ironically took a total of five hours to deal with my flat tires that day, even though I had gone to another car repair shop hoping to save some time.

So whether I wasn’t meant to be on the road during all those hours of the day or not, I don’t know. Some might say it was just dumb luck on what happened. My truth is that maybe if I had been more patient at that first repair shop, I might have been able to save myself some extra hassle and some money that day. Regardless, my Higher Power definitely taught me another invaluable lesson in patience that day.

Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson

What If “All The World’s A Stage…” Is Really True?

Every time I see any type of awards show such as the Oscars, my brain starts trying to idolize those famous people who are walking on those red carpets. As I watch the fans in the nearby stands scream and shout in ecstasy while getting star-struck, I find a part of the worldly me begins wanting to become famous as well. Usually, I’ll start asking myself why it is those actors and actresses can become so popular by just performing on some type of a stage. Recently though, I put a lot more thought to this and remembered a famous Shakespearean quote that says, “All the world’s a stage”. This got me wondering, what if everyone of us on this planet are all on some type of a bigger stage? One where our daily performances are being watched by others not of this plane, and one where we might be famous as well with our own built-in fan-base.

To buy into what I’m theorizing, I guess it goes to say that you will have to accept there is something more beyond this plane of existence. What I have come to believe in my own spiritual journey is that there is definitely an after-life. But what that after-life looks like, how you get there, and how long you stay in it, are all out of my own realm of knowledge. What I do know is that if there really is an after-life, it’s probably filled with countless souls. And if there are countless souls, then maybe each of them are watching our world like it’s a huge stage, just like we might, when watching something on a movie screen, a television set, or in some other type of theater.

While I really can’t say what exists after my life expires with any surety, is it really that far-fetched to believe that there is some type of beings watching us each and every day? Whether you may call them angels, archangels, or some other type of light-filled spirit, I find it hard to refute the possibility that they may watching our day to day performances as we walk through life.

Maybe they are crying when we when are having a pain filled day, just like we might be doing when watching a sad movie. Or maybe they are bursting out laughing when we’re having a silly day, just like we might be doing if we’re watching a comedy show. Or quite possibly, maybe they are feeling love when we are demonstrating that unconditionally towards someone else in this world, just like we might be feeling when seeing the same in a theater.

Whatever the truth is, I am inclined to believe these days that I already am famous with a huge fan-base that’s not of this world. While I might not be that well known currently, like many of those actors and actresses walking on the red carpets, I look forward to the day where I leave this plane and have my own special carpet to walk on. There I plan on meeting those who have been cheering me on each and every day, through all of the trials and tribulations I’m navigating through in life.

So the next time I find myself wishing I had fame like those I see on the red carpets, I plan on taking a moment, breathing, and remembering that “All the world’s a stage” and my daily performance is probably being watched by many others on another plane of existence. And that alone will make me feel pretty famous…

Peace, love, light, and joy,

Andrew Arthur Dawson